Control of Life

Epiphanies of all epiphanies happened the other night.

I have been in a serious slump for about the last two years. At first I thought it was my job, so I left and found another job but that didn't seem to do the trick. I thought maybe it was my relationship but as with any relationship we have high points and low points and even at our high points, I was still feeling like I was in a slump.

And then it truly hit me. I was letting my life control me, instead of having control of my life.

There were all these things that I've wanted to do, wanted to experience and I wasn't doing them but had no good reason why.

It's kind of like I've had one of those moments where break some shit and scream "I've had enough!"

This epiphany has led me to start the process towards a desire I've always had, to own my own business.

I am starting Boss Consulting, focused on Human Resources and Career Consulting. My end goal is to provide inspirational career coaching for women.

I hope you'll join me on this ride, it's something I've never done before and I know I have a lot to learn.

And while you ponder to yourself whether or not you're in control of your life or if it's in control of you, I leave you with a video of the little monster who has control of my heart. I have to deal with this hostility every night. So worth it though. :)

Time Well Spent

Tim and I were able to sneak away for a couple of days to spend some QT on the DL together since we hadn't seen much of each other lately. Our favorite vacations are usually within a three hour radius and only last about three or four days. This latest trip really hit the spot! It was wonderful to reconnect, relax, indulge and live a different life for a couple days.

We stayed at a beautiful hotel right on the beach in Chatham, MA. You stepped out the door of our suite onto an adorable brick patio and the sand was basically right in front of us. The weather was beautiful, sun was shining and it was the perfect warmth.

We indulged in every meal of the day. I have always thought that ordering room service was one of the most luxurious things you can do while staying in a hotel and we didn't hold back. The food was simple and delicious.

Our second day, we spent the morning at the spa which was incredibly relaxing. I think I had the best facial of my life! We then hopped in one of their Lexus as part of their Lexus Test Drive Program and drop the hour out to Provincetown. What an amazing little beach town!

Best find of the day was our spot for lunch called The Canteen. They had Frose! Frozen Rose! What!!!! It was delicious! The sandwiches and the view were icing on the cake.

We enjoyed dinner during our last night in downtown Chatham that night to celebrate our anniversary. Chatham's downtown is adorable, things didn't seem like they were open all year round so what you'll find depends on the time of year you go but you still get the small beach town charm regardless.

It was a really beautiful few days and was a much needed time to disconnect from everything else and reconnect with each other.

Cheers Bosses!

D

Boundaries

They say you're supposed to learn a ton of stuff as you get older right?

I can't say that I've learned a ton of stuff, but one thing that I have gained a better understanding of as I've gotten older is the need to set boundaries. And it's been one heck of a positive learning experience.

Part of establishing those boundaries is doing a little bit of self inventory. Find out what's important to you. It's kind of like establishing your non negotiable. For me, it's privacy (which is ironic because I blog). I knew that I wanted to start making decisions and setting boundaries with people in an effort to not compromise my privacy.

The next thing you need to do is start to get comfortable with the word "no," which is friggin hard. One thing that I always try to remember is a quote I heard from the HBO series Girls. It goes something like this.

"It's really liberating saying no to shit you don't want to do."

You can't say yes to everyone and everything and quite honestly, you have no obligation to give a reason or an excuse.

It's okay to walk away from things. If it doesn't fulfill you or fill you up, let it go. Don't engage and don't give it a second of thought or worry.

The biggest boundary I set was with my family, parents and all. Tough it was to communicate where I  was and where I needed to be, there are no regrets.

Speak up for yourself boss.

XO